Why?

Ok, so lately I have been wondering why, we as women allow ourselves to fall into relationships where we are not valued, appreciated and the affection we give isn't reciprocated. It is sometimes a hard pill to swallow knowing that you are on the giving end and never receiving. I think mostly we end up in this position because we are so eager to accept people, especially men for who they are and see the good in them even when it doesn't exist. We are even willing to settle for someone rather then be alone and wait for the right person to come along. Why do we do this? It is often to our detriment that we settle and get into these self destructive relationships with men who never truly give us what we are worth, or even value us in this "facade" of a relationship.

I mean really when you take a step back, it really isn't a relationship. He does what he wants, when he wants and openly states he doesn't want to announce that he is in a relationship with you. What does that say? I mean this is supposedly the man who says that he cares about you, and wants to make a life with you but he doesn't want to tell the people that he knows he is with you. WTH kind of BS is that? That is some real garbage, and we, women are willing to accept that.

We are even willing to accept being an option to a man who we make a priority. Really? WE do this entirely too much. Accepting anything just for the sake of saying you have a man, then to be alone. Why? Do you not like yourself that much that you can't stand to be with you?

We allow ourselves to be in this situations that literally eat away at our self esteem, and then we become these insecure, spying, creeping women. We hack into his e-mail, steal away to peek in his phone, check his Facebook. Why? Why? Why? Why not just let him go and let him be? Can we just really fall into love with ourselves for a moment, and just embellish in who we are for a moment so that we can avoid these situations and find men who appreciate us for the gems we are. Treat us like the queens that we should be, adore us just for being the unique being God created you to be.

Why not just cut that bond you have with that man that really truly doesn't want you, and be FREE. Then you will see as soon as you release those chains he has on you he will come chasing after you. Take control back over you, your feelings, your emotions and LIVE, LOVE and enjoy LIFE.