What if Girl?

Ok, so one day your ex comes to you and he tells you that he wonders, "what if." He is married/in a committed relationship and maybe things aren't as he would like or thought they would be, and he then starts wondering possibly what if he had chosen you. Sometimes when you think about it you may be flattered, but really this is somewhat of a left handed compliment. Basically, you are only a second thought after he chose someone else. I mean REALLY? That is somewhat hurtful. That you didn't make it to first place, but that he could/would come back to you and wonder out of curiosity what the possibilities could have been with you. The irony is that you have moved on, but for some strange reason you are still in his thoughts.

Ok, so is it good or bad to be the what if girl. Well it has its benefits and its curses. There is such a duality to being the what if girl. It is good because it says that you did something right that he still thinks about you. But then again it also says that at some point the other woman who won first place did something you didn't do. Something to think about huh? The epiphany here is that you shouldn't fall in this trap. It is a trap, see what happens is that at some point he wants to try having his cake and eating it too. Don't fall for it girl.

See what he will do is flatter you, and make you feel good that he is still thinking about you. It is only a ploy, because essentially he will go back to the wife, or girlfriend. But either way he is still not choosing you as the number one. So, why does this situation happen. Well probably because for some strange reason he is a double minded man and just can't make up his mind what he wants or because he is just plain old greedy. Either way, don't get drawn into this trap. It will take you in quick and drag you to the bottom of the lake quick and drown you.

You are and deserve better then to be anyone's second best or second choice. Why are you allowing yourself to be an option to him? He didn't even give you priority status, he gave that to someone else. Regardless of what he says the situation is with the other woman, he is going to tell you what you want to hear so that he can get what he wants. So in the end who wins and who looses when you are the What if Girl?