Ok, so the other day I was doing some thinking. I was wondering why some women tell themselves the lie that they are single because men, typically black men, are intimidated by them because they are "strong black women." Well I just wanted to say that is the furthest from true. I am not sure how this whole thing got started, and why it has lived the life it has. This is the worst lie you can tell yourself. Matter of fact its the worst lie you can tell your girlfriend and even believe worst of all.
There are probably a plethora of reasons why he has not chosen you as "the one." One of the major factors is when a man meets a woman he already has an idea what he wants and expects from her. He has sized her up mentally and decided what her potential "worth" is to him, and in getting know her he decides if she is worth taking the risk of indulging. At some point he evaluates between the cost and the benefits and which one outweighs the other. That is the determining factor whether he is going to go any further with her or just dip out chucking her the deuces as he moves on to the next hot thing that catches his eye.
When a man just drops off the face of the earth there are probably many reasons that he has decided to exit stage right. The fact is that he has decided that with YOU the cost of being with you and the benefits are not worth the risk of him taking the chance with you. So, he has opted out of the temporary "situation" with you. Basically, he has decided to keep it moving. So just because he was interested and then all of a sudden he decides to go cold turkey. Don't get your panties in a bunch and brood trying to figure out what you did wrong, or if he even really wants to be with you. He may have, and he may not, or there may be other conditions that he is dealing with and he feels that the timing is wrong.
Don't waste your time talking to your girls, and listening to the lies they are going to tell you about how you can get him. This is not one of those situations. There could have been a many things that you did that let him know that you could be needy. There can be other issues that have nothing to do with you. Either way it doesn't even matter. Just know that the excuse that your girlfriends may give you while she works her neck in sista girl tone is that "girl, he can't handle a woman like you. You are a STRONG black woman, and he is intimidated by you." That is not true, a women in her right mind, and all the right qualities and even yes a STRONG black woman is attractive to black men and they are not afraid of us. Actually they love us, but the factors that chase them away do not include intimidation. So, just erase that idea, factor and element from the equation because it doesn't make good math.
