Things that make you go, Hmmmmmm?

Ok, so I decided to start actively dating again. I am just curious what makes some people think that just because you mutually find each other attractive that equates that you should have sex? I mean REALLY? First, being physically attracted to someone doesn't mean that you will connect on that level. Second, I want to know what is in your head. We already agree that we like the physical, but there is more then the physical that can keep someone interested.

So, after given the opportunity to "see what's in your head" I am still at the same point as before. Why is it that some people when you talk to them via communication devices they have so much conversation but you get them up close in personal and they shut it DOWN? Hmmmm.

Now the next one is this. I am really wondering about this. Someone is in a relationship and they are openly acting like they aren't. When you ask they admit it and basically say that it is just physical, but a relationship none the less. In the mean time in between time during this "relationship" they are entertaining you. Now, let's think about this. If they are even considering anything with you and they are openly admitting they are in a relationship what type of person is this? Is this someone you even want to go on that level with because you have a few things to consider.
1) Loyalty and commitment. He/she is proving that their level of loyalty and commitment is not very good. What they do in their current relationship they will do with you "if " given the opportunity.
2) Respect. He/she has no respect for you, their relationship, and the person they are with. I mean REALLY? Is this someone you want to consider anything with especially intimate moments? If they are doing this to their significant other, there is no question that it would be done to you, and with someone else.
3) Boundaries. He/she has no boundaries, no limitations and most of all no moral fiber. I mean really they are proving to you they have no conscience and concept of right and wrong or they just blatantly don't care.

So, why do we women when presented with this dilemma we go along with the program and enlist for this mess? I just don't understand it. We deserve and should expect so much more and better for ourselves. But somehow we in the back of our minds think and believe that we don't deserve it possibly?

We really need to talk about this issue and get it out there. Possibly even maybe change how we are thinking and responding to this situation. It is all too familiar to us that we think, believe and feel it is normal. It isn't, and shouldn't be accepted. This is when KIR (keeping it real) goes wrong.